a primer

Garden of the Gods. Colorado, 2018

“To move into that contemplative realm is the greatest adventure. It is to be open to the infinite and hence to infinite possibilities. Our private, self-made worlds come to an end; a new world appears within and around us and the impossible becomes an everyday experience.”


Thomas Keating, Open Heart, Open Mind



While there are myriad ways to be STILL, the heart of a STILL practice is a rugged and regular contemplative one, 20 minutes once a day, twice a day ideally. Don't worry if you can't start with this sort of disciplined practice immediately - there are plenty of other ways to lean into your Stillness. (More on this below.) But as soon as you can, return to this page and try the practice on for size. I am convinced that nothing changes your lived experience so dramatically. 










STILL Practice

Guidelines adapted from Centering Prayer Basics, The Contemplative Society

  1. Find a quiet space where you won’t be disturbed.

  2. Sit comfortably on a chair, cushion etc. The goal is to be “relaxed in body and alert in mind.”

  3. Gently close your eyes.

  4. Set an intention to “Consent to the presence and action of the Divine,” as it is known in Centering Prayer teaching. If you’re not comfortable with that language, set an intention to consent to an experience of deep and abiding peace.

  5. Whenever you become aware of a thought, let it go. The goal here isn’t to stop your thoughts from coming; the goal is to gently let them go - again and again, and again.

  6. Use a single word – one to which you have no emotional attachment – that helps you let go of your thoughts. The word is not a mantra to be repeated. Think of it, instead, as a sort of windshield wiper that gently wipes away thoughts and reminds you of your intention to rest in the presence of God/deep peace.

  7. Continue your practice for 20 minutes. If you’re new to the practice, it’s perfectly fine to start with a shorter sit; 5, 10, 15 minutes. Slowly work your way up to 20. Two 20 minute sits per day is considered ideal. A timer on my phone tells me when my sit is over. (I use the Insight Timer app.) 




  • Practice putting down your phone as often as you think of it. Unplug. Look around. Sit quietly. Notice whether you feel discomfort, relief, or both—more on unplugging HERE.

  • Get outside - into the wilderness. 

  • Get your hands in the dirt. Plant things! Outside or in. 

  • Set a beautiful table and make or serve a delicious meal - for yourself or your tribe. Light candles, use your favorite pottery, serve mulled wine.

  • Take a candle-lit bath. Put a few drops of essential oil in your bathwater, light candles, listen to sacred music. Start with Saint Hildegard of Bingen.

  • Build your own personal alter with special items that help you feel connected to the Divine. 

  • Read INTO THE WILDERNESS, chapters 1-4.

  • Finally, and this is important, commit to doing a silent retreat at least once a year. 


Christian Stegall, STILL/WILD Woman

Great Sands National Park



  • Dance, sing, move. The wild nature is fully expressive. It's important (and profoundly liberating) to release your body and voice. Begin now.

  • Slowly but surely, begin to reconnect to the natural world, to the wild places around you. This is a vital piece of the STILL/WILD movement. More HERE.

  • Create! Paint, sew, write, take photos. Also, create wild, mystical living spaces. More on STILL/WILD @ Home HERE

  • Practice, at home and elsewhere, speaking Truth to Power. You can begin by having whatever Fierce Conversations you need to have. (See Susan Scott's book, FIERCE CONVERSATIONS.)

  • Read about women, including those in the STILL/WILD Tribe, who embody the S/W ethos; Women who have a dedicated STILL practice, and who are bringing about much-needed cultural change. Learn from them, as I do, and follow their example. We look to the women, now. 

  • Pray, if you happen to be a person who prays (either that or "set an intention," as they say) to find your own unique, change-making contribution. Trust that Way Will Open. Consider volunteering at various orgs in your community to see if the work they're doing lights you up. You'll know it - the work you're called to do - when you've found it. Important note: If you're a caretaker, currently - if you have young children, for instance - you are already engaged in WILD work. Then again, you and your children might find some change-making work to do together! 

  • Reach out to Sara if you feel so led!


We begin with stillness. Then we live out loud. 


Clearly, WILD manifests differently for all of us. We can touch the WILD dimension of our lives not only in the change-making realm, but also in physical and intellectual ones, for example. That said, in my experience, one can only have a dedicated STILL practice for so long before feeling inexorably called to some sort of change-making work - at home, at work, or on the world stage. (Think coaching, healing, social and political activism.) You'll find your way, and I'm happy to help. Begin by cultivating your own WILD nature, and then turn that fierce and compassionate energy outward. For more on entering into both the STILL and WILD dimensions of your life, see below.

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